Why do people lie?

i believe, ever since we're a little kid, our parents have always taught us "honesty is the best policy" and not to lie and blablabla. But, think about it, WHO can actually stand up proudly and say
"i've never uttered a lie before in my life"? remember the time u stole a cookie? or the time u broke the vase?

you see, lies are muttered everywhere, at every moment. The modern society has evolved to such a level that lying has become a sub-concious action. people say lies without even realising they're doing it. even a simple "how are you?" is answered with a lie.

Disagree? let's say given a scenario,u haven't had the best of days, ur boss is rushing u for ur report and u're not feeling that well. all of a sudden, u meet up with an old friend you haven't met for years on the streets. and he greets you with a "how are you??" of course the first answer that come to your mind would be a "I'm fine. thank you." definitely u're not gonna trouble him with all your recent problems right?

i call this.
LYING OUT OF POLITENESS.

let's say, another scenario, a classic example, a friend asks "do i look fat in this drees/jeans/clothing?" assuming that she IS. say yes and get ready for a beating, say no and there u go, u're lying:D

some people might defend saying "it would be better to not say anything than to lie" but come on, we're human beings. we can read the signs. let's say, a friend ask that question again, "do i look fat in this dress?" and u give a wide smile and say "no comment". that's like a total giveaway that something's wrong.

i'm not saying lying is good. but the fact is sometimes people nowadays just lie out of politeness. it has sort of become an unavoidable thing. so when, are we allowed to "lie out of politeness"?

Take a look at the situation, if the truth would cause them distress, don't say it. for example, If someone you know/care about makes you dinner and its horrible dont tell them its horrible say its good and you like it and do your best to consume it. If they spent all day cooking you something, show appreciaction whether its the truth or not. it doesn't hurt to appreciate someone's efforts.

because, Sometimes, being completely honest is self-serving and unnecessary. Consider the other person, then consider what's best for them. 

be considerate.

It isn't always the truth, and that's the truth :)
point made.
this is zhenfeng
signing off. byebye.